Why does everyone think that a divorce has to be any ONE person's fault

I will never understand why everyone thinks that if a marriage doesn't work out and ends in Divorce that it is just one person's fault. There are two VERY imperfect people trying to live together and build a life together. Then these two people they go through very difficult things in life...OF COURSE it isn't going to work all the time.
That doesn't mean it is just one person's fault or either person's fault. It just didn't work. When you go through hard things it is pretty rare that you come out the other end of those trials in the same place as the person that you are married to.

I have been told more times than I can say that I am too naive and think that people are too good. That I shouldn't trust like I do. I have been hurt by this many times in my life BUT I will never change. I love believing that people are good. I love that I have been blessed by new friendships and love because of this.
I am truly happy for other people when they talk to me about the good things that happen in their lives.
I rarely feel envious and have NEVER assumed someone was out to get me or hurt anyone else. I have never tired to dig and find out the negative things about anyone.
I have tried really hard to not gossip or to walk away or change the subject if someone does gossip.
I have learned through my life trials that EVERYONE has something they struggle with. That we all sin differently and that NOONE has a perfect life. That we have something at home that is hard.

I truly can't understand this in other people and have cried many times over other people doing this.

What is it about our society that we feel like we need to gossip and talk about others. Do we need it to feel better about ourselves? Do we need to feel like we are better than someone if we can talk about them? Does it make our lives seem better?
I have tried to not ever do this to anyone and I feel terrible if I have ever made anyone feel bad like this. If I need to apologize please let me know and I will apologize.

One of the quotes read in RS today was one of my favorites ever about Gossip....

My name is Gossip. I have no respect for justice. I maim without killing. I break hearts and ruin lives. I am cunning and malicious and gather strength with age. The more I am quoted the more I am believed. My victims are helpless. They cannot protect themselves against me because I have no name and no face. To track me down is impossible. The harder you try, the more elusive I become. I am nobody’s friend. Once I tarnish a reputation, it is never the same. I topple governments and wreck marriages. I ruin careers and cause sleepless nights, heartaches and indigestion. I make innocent people cry in their pillows.

Even my name hisses. I am called Gossip.

I make headlines and headaches.

Before you repeat a story, ask yourself:

Is it true?

Is it harmless?

Is it necessary?

If it isn’t, don’t repeat it.
I don't understand why if Joey and I are friends and genuinely like each other but just don't love each other and haven't for years that people can't just accept that it didn't work. We stayed together for a lot of years because of our friendship and our kids.

Every marriage has and always will have hard things happen. Every person that gets married will do things to their spouse that can't be undone. That hurt terribly! It is never one sided. It is NEVER one persons fault.

I can look at my marriage to Justin and tell you that I played a part in my divorce happening. At the time it happened I would never have thought that. BUT I KNOW I was 50% of why we got divorced.

With Joey I can say that I did things to him that hurt him so much. I will always regret these things. He is a good man and deserved better BUT the same is true about him with me. I deserved better and he did things that hurt me terribly! I know he regrets them and wants nothing but happiness for me.

We are friends and are talking and enjoying our friendship, I know this is hard to believe but we both are talking about and understand that we probably should have gotten divorced a long time ago. We both want the other one to be happy and to find someone that makes them happy!

We have known this was coming for a long time and just because we didn't talk to other people about it and just decided to share it with our friends and family recently doesn't mean we haven't been talking about it and known it was coming for a long time.

We love each other and truly mean the things we are telling everyone. Just because a divorce happens doesn't mean it has to be ANYONE's fault. IT JUST didn't work.

And isn't it wonderful that we are trying to protect each other and remain friends rather than hurt each other and try to ruin each other's life's as we end our life together.

I wish everyone else would give us the same respect.........